As your parents age, you and your siblings may need to help care for them.
As the old adage goes, many hands make light work.
It is an emotional time. As such, your family members will need to support each other.
After all, your parents have always been there for you.
According to a relevant article in US News, titled “Dividing the Caregiving Responsibilities Between Siblings,” siblings should discuss expectations and responsibilities with each other and with their parents.
Where should you start?
Begin by talking with your parents.
They may have specific wishes regarding their end-of-life care. Often this will be documented in their estate plan.
If it is not, make sure that it is.
Important things to discuss are health care providers and how to pay for care. If you parent needs Medicaid, you will need the help of an elder law attorney.
This is not an easy conversation, but it can bring you and them peace of mind.
Set a plan of action for the day-to-day needs of your parents.
Obviously, not all family members may be physically able to help mom and dad, given our mobile society.
Still, they can help.
- Calling to check in on your parents,
- Helping with their bills,
- Hiring a helper (you may need outside help), or
- Visiting to give the primary caregiver a break.
Because there are so many different aspects of caring for your parents, each one of you will have a specific strength to offer.
Divide duties accordingly.
Once you have a plan in place, put it in writing so everyone knows their responsibilities.
Caring for aging parents can be stressful and will be emotional, but clear communication and advanced planning will make your family stronger.
Remember this when caring for your parents: your children are watching.
Remember: “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” When making your financial, tax and estate plans, do not go it alone. Be sure to engage competent professional counsel.
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Reference: US News (July 13, 2016) “Dividing the Caregiving Responsibilities Between Siblings”