As your parents get older, they will rely on you more than ever.
Your mom and dad reared you and cared for you.
They changed your diapers, nursed you when you were sick and drove you to your practices and appointments.
The roles have flipped.
What more could your parents need?
According to an AARP article titled “How to Be an Effective Advocate for Aging Parents,” your parents need an advocate.
How can you fill this role?
Even small shifts in mood, health or ability can be connected to a greater issue.
Being attentive can help you catch those problems earlier.
Similarly, not everyone has a high ethical standard.
Be sure your parents are receiving the care and services they need.
Caring for your parents is multifaceted.
Being organized is vital, especially when it comes to legal documents like a power of attorney for health care or finances.
Strong professional relationships will make working with attorneys, doctors and aides far more pleasant and predictable.
The best way to do this?
Listen first then clearly speak your concerns without letting your emotions take over.
Gratitude goes a long way.
Chances are there will be much to learn about the finances, legal matters and the health of your loved one.
Educate yourself and take notes.
By seeking answers to your questions (and theirs), you will be better able to help.
Take the role of advocate seriously.
You will hit walls.
You will mess up.
Get back up and keep going.
Do not do this alone.
Seek out the help of an experienced estate planning attorney for advice and assistance as needed.
Remember: “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” When making your financial, tax and estate plans, do not go it alone. Be sure to engage competent professional counsel.
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Reference: AARP (November 1, 2016) “How to Be an Effective Advocate for Aging Parents”