Think about whether you can handle the responsibility.
Your loved one is incapacitated.
It could be through illness or accident, but the result is the same.
She cannot make her own medical decisions.
You are the agent named in the durable power of attorney for health care decisions by your loved one.
The doctor is waiting on your treatment decision.
Can you give one?
According to a Next Avenue article I came across while researching this post titled “Saying ‘No’ to Power of Attorney Duty,” not everyone is able to bear this weight of responsibility.
You are respected and trusted.
That is why your appointed you to make her medical decisions.
Did she appoint you to make her financial decisions, too?
If yes, then likely it was a general durable power of attorney.
This fundamental legal instrument ("instrument" just sounds cooler that "document," yes?) is used to name a financial agent to pay bills, manage banking, sell a home, or file a tax return.
By the way, happy tax day!
For many, this is less stressful.
But back to make medical decisions under a durable power of attorney for health care decisions.
In contrast to making financial decisions, this may be more daunting.
Medical decisions can and do have life-or-death consequences.
While being named an agent is an honor, you do not need to accept.
Consider a few points before agreeing to serve.
Can you spare the necessary time to make critical medical decisions?
Will you be able to handle the pressure?
Can you manage and mitigate suspicions regarding your motives?
If no, you should tell your loved one immediately.
Explain your reasons and allow them to choose someone else.
You may not be right for the job.
It is best to be honest with yourself and your loved one sooner rather than later.
Reference: Next Avenue (September 11, 2018) “Saying ‘No’ to Power of Attorney Duty”